Comparison is something we all face at one time or another. In the age of social media, we can’t help but notice what everyone else is doing. Even if we are happy where we are at, we constantly find ourselves searching for the next thing. We are always changing and desiring change.
While at times, comparison can cause more harm than good, it can also work in the opposite. Comparing ourselves to others sometimes, can show us that what is available to them is also available to us. So let’s look at how you can talk this sense of longing for the things that aren’t working in your life can be used as inspiration to grow and develop.
It’s time to start creating the things you want.
If you aren’t happy where you are, you need to change something. The one path that will never get you anywhere different is the one we most commonly take (the path of doing nothing at all).
1. Know What’s Stopping You
Stop for a minute and think to yourself about what it is exactly that is stopping you from getting what you want.
What are your limitations?
It may seem like your job, your living situation, your relationships, or your financescan make it hard for you to make drastic changes in your life. However, beyond all of that… often it is ourselves, and our own beliefs that serve as our biggest limitation.
Self-doubt can be detrimental to our growth. Fear can be crippling, making us unable or unwilling to pursue unfamiliar and new opportunities because we want to avoid failure, or judgement, or some other limitation that we have created.
So what are these limitations?
What are you telling yourself?
And further to that, which one of these are within your control to change?
While some situations we cannot change, most circumstance have elements that we can control or adjust. We may not be able to change what has happened, but we can decide to move forward despite it all and make the best or alter whatever is still in our control.
Feeling bad is natural, feel whatever you need, but we can’t allow these circumstances to keep you stuck. Use the dark times to learn and always fall forward onto the next best thing.
2. Re-Evaluate Your Circumstances
If you are in a situation that is making you unhappy or unsatisfied, re-evaluate how you got there.
Whatever it is that is making you uncomfortable, keeping you stuck, I want you to think about the elements and decisions that got you there.
Did you make a decision to pursue one thing in order to avoid something else?
Did you make your decision because other options were overlooked?
Whatever it is, you need to look at what isn’t working and what it is that you have been avoiding & connect with what is going to make you happy.
If you are unsure of where it is you need to start making changes, ask someone. Being curious is the first step in personal growth.
Curiousity is the desire to understand and to try and push the envelope and IT is what drives change. IT is what will help you gain new perspectives and allow you to take away as many important lessons as possible that you can apply in your own life and create the change you desire. Which will in turn require you to do tip #3…
3. Get Uncomfortable
I can guarantee you that you won’t get anywhere new by practicing the same old strategies. Remember, nothing changes if nothing changes. If you’re always going to the same places, working the same job, interacting with the same people, but expecting things to change or improve – it’s not a realistic outlook on your situation.
If you don’t like something in your life, change it. Results will not change if you do not alter the actions creating them.
You are not only your largest limitation, you are also the only one who can do anything about changing it.
Finding success is about making the decision to do something. Once you realize that the safest thing you can do actually feels the most risky, the sky is the limit.
I encourage you to have the courage to challenge the status quo, defy limitations, find your purpose, and serve it.