You may have found yourself often thinking:
- What is my purpose here?
- What is my truest desire?
- What makes me tick?
Who knew that the answers to these simple questions could dictate a roadmap for your life…
The challenge here however, is that from a very young age you have been conditioned to be fearful and taught to play it safe. Whether this conditioning has come from the bad news you’ve seen on TV or the stories from your parents, mentors, friends, or family, you are designed to live cautiously at risk of getting hurt (physically, emotionally, or even financially).
Fear is something we see all the time in day-to-day life. Anytime someone we know decides to take risks (travel the world, quit their job to follow a passion, etc) instead of being supportive we often caution them of the dangers.
- What if they get hurt?
- They will probably fail.
- What if they go bankrupt?
It’s funny because as kids we are raised to “follow our dreams” and “be anything we want to be”, but as adults are later cautioned to take the safe route. We are told to get a ‘good’ job and stick it out because it will lead us to happiness later on.
And now I am laughing from behind my computer screen because I tried to do the whole ‘good’ job thing, and I have never been more miserable in my life.
SO RIGHT NOW.
I want you to stop for a minute and imagine a world where the opposite were true. I want you to imagine if we supported people whole-heartedly in their pursuits.
Sure, we never know if things will work out for people who decide to take risks, but we also have no guarantee that the BAD things are going to happen either.
Fear is a lie. It’s imaginary. It’s NOT REAL.
Remember, we are living in an opposite world for a minute… and fears don’t exist here!
Imagine that instead of following your dreams and failing, following your dreams actually leads to something absolutely incredible… but here in real world reality you won’t know either way if you don’t try!
Here are my 3 tips for you to stop listening to everyone else, and start living your true purpose.
- Because you deserve to do what you enjoy.
- Because you deserve to be happy.
- Because you deserve to live a life you love.
1. Learn to Get Comfortable In It
What is “it” you ask? Well, “it” can be whatever you want.
- Your dream job
- Your dream relationship
- Your dream vacation
You can decide to go for “it”, whatever it is.
This doesn’t mean you need to quit your job and go frivolously spend 10k on a trip to Bali. Instead it means that fear is likely the one major component holding you back from chasing whatever it is you want.
In order to fulfill the seemingly impossible dream, the first thing you need to do is get comfortable in the idea that “it” is possible.
Your own thoughts create your reality. So, decide which reality it is you want and decide that you are going to get it.
2. Think to The Future
Next, you will need to start remembering a time you did something you were really scared to do.
It could be:
- Bungee jumping
- Moving away from home
- Starting a new job
Whatever it is – I want you to think back to that time! How did you feel then? How do you feel about it now?
It is funny how our fears are less scary looking back on. Something that nearly immobilized us at the time, has us now thinking “Wow I can’t believe I was afraid of THAT!”
Using this principle, really begin to feel into whatever it is you are afraid of right now, and pretend to look back on what it from a future you. You need to tell yourself, “I am going to do this, and it won’t be so bad.”
And then from there…
3. Break Down the Fear
Figure out what part of your dream you are afraid of. It’s obviously not the part where you get to go on your dream vacation or you start your own successful business. Fears are much scarier than that.
Is it failure for not being able to succeed?
Is it humiliation for even trying?
What part are you afraid of specifically?
Now imagine you were to give up on the dream entirely.
What could potentially happen?
Would you be sad for never finding out if it was even possible?
Would you feel humiliated for never having the guts to try?
You need to decide which of these two possibilities is worse.
Would you rather continue to live in mediocrity, or would you rather pursue success?
(And yes potentially failure, but THINK of what you could learn!)
We are all so stuck in our comfort zones that we are afraid to move.
Stop letting the fear of not doing whatever your dream is outweigh the fear of getting it done.
I have done this, and I survived. You can do it too.