Rejection sucks, plain and simple, but it certainly doesn’t have to be as difficult as we often make it out to be.
They way in which we respond to rejection can be pivotal in our lives.
Will you allow rejection to hold you back, or will you utilize the chance to grow stronger, more resilient, and better prepared the next time?
Let’s take a look and hop right into 3 tips to help you get past rejection.
1. Think Big Picture
How do you want to live your life? Have you ever thought about that?
Quite simply, would you rather:
- Risk being rejected again? OR…
- Live the rest of your life trying to shelter yourself from future rejection?
The thought of never trying at all, never growing, never learning something new about yourself or about how the real world works seems scary as heck to me.
It’s through rejection we grow resilience, and it’s through rejection that we learn what’s not working so that we can get closer to this better, more improved version of ourself.
2. Reframe the Rejection
Rejection is not about you, remember that. In fact, it happens to literally everyone at some point or another.
While our default instinct is to slip into the “I’m so stupid”/“I’m not good enough” mentality. You need to recognize that approaching your defeat with this attitude is only going to hold you back.
Ultimately, it comes down to your decision to decide that this person, this job, this situation was just not right for right now, but that doesn’t mean it will dictate your entire future.
It’s important in these times, to reaffirm the efforts you have made and remember, “I pushed myself to my limits”. By exercising this compassion for yourself you can begin to see the new possibilities provided by this misfortune
Not getting the job you wanted, or being rejected by the one you ‘love’ does not discredit who you are as a person or the skills and attributes you have to offer the world. A single case of rejection (or even multiple) is not indicative of the end. It is not the end.
Remember, one incident or individual is not reflective of all that you have and all that you are.
It’s simply just a single piece of the puzzle.
3. Seek the Learning Opportunity
Rejection can serve as a humbling experience because it reminds you that you don’t know or have everything.
Every rejection from a partner, job, or friendship is a mirror of what we needed at that point in our life and learned to let go of.
These experiences are the reasons we are where who we are. We need to celebrate the journey, scars and all.
Be sure to give thanks and be grateful for the wounds from which we will heal. If we learned something from our rejection, then it was not a waste; with the right mindset, rejection can serve as an opportunity for motivation to do and be better.
Resilience is a learned skill. Whether you learn about areas in your life that need improvement, or you simply recognize that being turned down isn’t awful as you imagined, rejection can be a good teacher.
Use rejection as an opportunity to move forward with more wisdom and appreciate what it has given you along the way.