Have you ever felt like everyone else has life figured out except you?
Have you ever found yourself crippled by the fear of what other’s would think, feeling like you aren’t enough, feeling like you aren’t ready?
Meanwhile, from the outside things look fine… like you have it all together, but then somewhere, for some reason you don’t feel like you can’t go further…
You find yourself in this place where you want to make a change, but you’re stuck feeling like: “Where do I go from here?”
Well friend, here’s the thing.
You are the only person who can truly know yourself through and through – your own thoughts and your own reactions. You are the only accurate compass you have to navigate through this world. This means your cannot navigate your decisions based on what other people might say or think or do about it.
The only thing you are responsible for in this life is your intention, not your reception. You can control what you put out into the world, but what you can not control is how people receive or react to what you do. By being too afraid to stand strong in your beliefs, you are subconsciously telling yourself that the opinion of others is more important than your own happiness.
It’s therefore important to remember that to be firm in what you believe in, is really just a way of making the commitment to yourself to love yourself above all else.
& here are my tips to help you learn to tune and trust that the decisions you are making are right for you, your journey, your truth, and no one else.
1. Focus on the Present
Have you ever found yourself dwelling on the past or stressing about the future? (Yeah, same).
Unfortunately, these are both completely useless practices because you cannot change either.
People who are happy, or successful, or actually do great things with their lives are all in on the same secret. And the secret is that they understand the importance of the now. Not only are these people choosing themselves, but they are also choosing to focus on the actions necessary right now to get them where they want to be later.
This doesn’t mean you have to change your whole life.
You simply need to recognize that moving forward is always going to get you forward no matter how slow you are moving.
So start by asking these questions:
- What is one step I can take forward?
- What is ONE thing that will get me incrementally closer to where I want to be?
Start here, today, right now and stop worrying about what might be coming tomorrow.
2. Trust What Your Body Tells You
Let’s face it, when something isn’t right for you – no matter how you try to justify it – your body knows.
Have you ever made a decision that just didn’t sit quite right in your gut? Or perhaps you’ve said yes to doing something only to be left feeling heavy, restricted, or trapped?
Learning to understand this instinct is one, but learning to trust it is another. The fact of the matter is, your body never lies, so you need to pay attention. You need to trust what your intuition is saying and you need to muster the courage to stand in your truth.
Choosing to be vocal about how we really feel can be difficult because people may disagree, but it’s important to trust your decision and stay in that uncomfortable place. I promise you it will pass.
Those who truly love and respect you will come around to recognize that you are standing in your own truth. While it may not be easy, I assure you it will be worth it.
3. Make Feeling Good a Priority
Lastly, in the high demand world we live in it can be all too easy to ignore our body’s signals in order to take care of everyone else’s needs. So I want to encourage you to stop worrying about what other people are feeling for a minute, and learn to test things against your own body’s compass.
This is your life and you should be your number one priority. So listen to your body, and act accordingly; guilt free.
Make sure that you are showing others that you matter to you, as much as you matter to them. Lead by example. Teach others to value and care for themselves by adopting that into your lifestyle.
Choosing yourself is not selfish; in fact it is the only way you can thrive in this world.